I think they both let success go to their heads but I've watched the show from the beginning and there was many times I felt like jumping into the tv and slapping john. I know men aren't always as in tune to the kids as moms are but he was in his own little world half the time. Kate is very obsessive but I guess you'd have to be in order to keep that many kids under control. I think he's shown his true colors since the split.
I have always liked Kate and was a big fan of John and Kate plus 8 but it seems lately I am seeing a different side of her. Part of me wants to feel sorry for her. Sometimes I do wonder if she tries to stay in the spotlight because she loves the attention or if she actually is trying to provide for her family. At the same time John is a complete loser. I would never act the way she did in her shows. She was way too much of a control freak.
I'm not sure i would really call her a victim, but i have watched the show from the beginning and would never call her a Monster. I think she and john are victims of their own lives. I do believe that she is very, very misunderstood.