Being only 2 when my parents divorced kept me from really feeling confused, hateful, etc about the divorce. It was just what I grew up knowing. I do wish my parents could get along, though. I also believe it can be tough on the couple divorcing, especially when it's a hard fought divorce, so there is definitely pain and heartache for EACH member of a family. I don't think anyone should stay married simply "because of the kids", though.
Ok guys, think about being the one actually going through the divorce yourself and having to put your kids through it. Yes, it's hard on kids but the parents have it pretty rough too.
One thing that no one has touched on is that sometimes it's much more damaging for people to stay together for the kids sake. If they are really unhappy in their marriage it will have a negative affect on everyone. I saw this with my daughter and her family. The atmosphere in her home now is so much better than it was when she was in an unhappy marriage.
It is hard for either side. I think though that when you are older it is harder to deal with than if you were a little kid. You realize when you are older what is actually happening and understand everything about it.
Kids are amazingly tough but divorce still affects them deeply. Sometimes I think its harder on grown children but I do believe that how well kids handle divorce depends on how well their parents handle it. If both parents refrain from bashing each other and encourage good communication between everyone involved it won't be as painful.
Well I know this one all to well,its the Kids I've seen what it does to them the parents can move on but it leaves a hole in the kids cause one of the parents isnt around as much and then when you get remarried the kids never fully except the new step-parent cause they only believe the parents should be together,and if that can't happen then they dont need to be with anyone.
I think it is hard on the parents but I think it ends up being much harder on the kids. They get the brunt of everything and put straight in the middle of it. Having parents that have been separated for four years I know what it is like. You never know what it is like unless you have actually gone through it yourself.